Have you ever wanted to go out with friends, get some 'me' time, or reach a life goal, but felt restrained by the responsibility of being a parent? The chances are you have, and for many parents these restraints will remain unless they build a support network.
Us against the world
Largely out of the anger we felt for the way we were treated at the news of Mel’s pregnancy by some, as young parents we determined not to seek support from anybody - We were going to take on the world by ourselves!
Needles to say, it wasn't too long before we realised that our lone ranger approach to parenting would lead to frustration and isolation.
We needed help!
We get by with a little help from our...
As parents we’re all in need of help, which is why having people support is an essential principle for effective parenting.
Not only does the help of others benefit us by providing respite from the demands of parenting, but it adds value to our children by exposing them to a wider network of love, affirmation, praise, challenge and advice.
Having a positive network of other responsible adults in their lives is good for our childrens' development, as it gives another outlet for them and provides an alternative voice for us.
Seek help intentionally
As our responsibilities have increased, so to the need for us to swallow our pride, forgive those who've hurt us, and ask for help from time to time.
What we've found is that family and friends have willingly given their support when asked and that both we and our children have benefited hugely from their input over the years.
Our decision to intentionally seek out and ask for help has been important to us being able to get time together and in making efforts to invest in friendships and interests.
Regardless of family size or structure, seeking support from others is an essential principle that applies to all parents hoping to raise children well, as it takes into account not just our needs, but also the needs of our children.
Your thoughts and comments
What stops you from asking for help when you need it?
What else could you achieve if you were to receive support from others?
Who would your children benefit from if they had time with them?
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